In November of 2013, I wrote an article called, “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do.” I never imagined my list would go viral. But it was read over 30 million times and it’s been reprinted in places like Forbes, Success, Psychology Today, and Business Insider.
My message on mental strength didn’t just stem from my education as a licensed clinical social worker or my experiences as a psychotherapist. It was actually a personal letter to myself during a time when I needed a reminder to stay strong.
Within a three-year time frame, I lost my mother and my 26-year-old husband, both in sudden and unexpected circumstances. I learned that when you’re going through tough times, good habits aren’t enough. You also have to get rid of bad habits – no matter how seemingly small or infrequent they seem – because they’ll hold you back.
Then, in 2013, my father-in-law was diagnosed with terminal cancer and the anticipatory grief was almost unbearable. So I wrote my list, “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do,” as a reminder of all those bad habits I’d need to avoid if I wanted to face the circumstances with as much courage and strength as possible.
I published it to the web in hopes it might help someone else. Within a matter of days, my list was read and shared by millions of people.
Just a couple of weeks after writing that list, my father-in-law passed away. So while I publicly celebrated my article’s success, my family and I privately dealt with our grief.
I’m honored now to be able to share my story behind that viral article. And I’m humbled that my book, also titled 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, has become an international best-seller that is being translated into 25 languages.
I’m passionate about resilience and I love sharing strategies for overcoming life’s inevitable challenges. Through my work as a therapist, and my experiences speaking with a variety of audiences, I’ve heard countless stories of people who choose to build mental strength. It’s a lot like physical strength – it takes hard work and dedication – but everyone can do it.
I really enjoy hearing from readers. If you have questions, comments, or you just want to say hello, please email me at Amy@AmyMorinLCSW.com. But please note, I don’t give out psychological advice online.
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