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Expanding on her viral post that has become an international phenomenon, psychotherapist Amy Morin offers simple yet effective solutions for increasing mental strength in her new book,
13 THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T DO
When licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist Amy Morin was twenty three years old and lost her mother suddenly to a brain aneurysm, she allowed herself to grieve and eventually set herself on a path of healing – using many of the skills she gave to her own clients. Three short years later, however, she lost her husband to a heart attack. Grief, again, overwhelmed her – but, with time, it got better. Then, five years later, after finding love again, when her new husband’s father ran out of treatment options for an aggressive cancer, it changed everything.
“This time I had a different experience dealing with death… I knew what was coming, and it filled me with a sense of dread. I found myself thinking, Here we go again.” She writes, opening up for the first time about her personal struggles. “I sat at the table thinking about how unfair it was, hard it was going to be, and how much I wanted things to be different.” But she knew that she couldn’t let herself go down that road again, and that if she let herself fall into the trap of thinking that her situation was worse than anyone else’s, or if she convinced herself that she couldn’t handle another loss, it wasn’t going to help.
It was at that moment that Morin sat down and wrote her now internationally-known viral blog post, “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do” – based on the 13 Things that could hold her back from getting better, if she allowed them to take hold of her – and posted it on her personal blog and on Lifehack. It resonated so much with readers that it was picked up by Forbes.com, where it received roughly 10 million views in a few weeks.
Now, for the first time, Morin shares her raw and inspirational backstory and expands upon the 13 Things from her viral post. Sharing her tried-and-true practices for increasing mental strength, in 13 THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T DO: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success (William Morrow; Publication Date: January 1, 2015; Hardcover; $26.99 – also available in e-book and audio) Amy Morin reveals why we are only as good as our worst habits, and shares her pragmatic, concise tips to find better ways to cope with life’s challenges.
In 13 THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T DO you will learn:
- How to identify irrational thoughts and replace them with more realistic ones
- Why developing mental strength isn’t about chasing happiness
- Why mental strength isn’t synonymous with mental health – and why you CAN still be mentally strong even if you have depression, anxiety, or other mental health problems
- How to control your emotions so your emotions don’t control you
- How to create realistic expectations about how long it will take to reach your goal, and how difficult it might be
- Why cooperating rather than competing with everyone will make you stronger
- How to make peace with the past so you can live in the present
- How to take risks that could benefit you the most, even the kind that may cause some anxiety
- Strategies to tolerate uncomfortable emotions associated with conflict and confrontation
- Ways to take full responsibility for how you choose to spend your time and energy
- How to develop resilience to life’s inevitable obstacles and tragedies
With anecdotes from her work as a college psychology instructor and psychotherapist, as well as personal stories of how she bolstered her own mental strength – like her annual celebration of her late husband’s birthday (which has involved everything from skydiving to swimming with sharks), Morin opens each chapter with a profile of an individual challenged by one of the 13 Things. Followed by self-identifying quizzes, readers are challenged to determine whether they, too, fall prey to this particular defeating behavior. Outlining ways to shift our thinking, and ending each chapter with bulleted points on common traps for making change, THE 13 THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T DO answers what we should not do when we encounter adversity and explains how we can be happy and succeed instead.
Laid out in an easy-to-follow format, readers can simply flip between the 13 Things, focusing on those that they need to improve the most. The 13 Things mentally strong people don’t do are:
- They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Themselves
- They Don’t Give Away Their Power
- They Don’t Shy Away From Change
- They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
- They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
- They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
- They Don’t Dwell on the Past
- They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
- They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
- They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
- They Don’t Fear Alone Time
- They Don’t Feel Like The World Owes Them Anything
- They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
Increasing your mental strength can change your entire attitude. It takes practice and hard work, but with Morin’s specific tips, exercises, and troubleshooting advice, it is possible to not only stretch your mental muscle but also drastically improve the quality of your life. THE 13 THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T DO will show you how.
Amy Morin is a licensed clinical social worker, college psychology instructor and psychotherapist. She is the only person in the psychology industry who is talking about mental strength on a global level. She lives in Enfield, Maine. Online: www.amymorinlcsw.com
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