Changing your life sounds simple. If you want to lose weight, the answer is to exercise more and eat better. Or, if you aren’t happy with your career, you could just quit your job and find a new line of work.
But making those changes is hard. Knowing something and doing it are two very different things.
Of course, there are some exceptions to the rule—those times when change starts out easy. Maybe you’re really motivated to change your spending habits. But then, after the first two weeks, your motivation goes out the window and you struggle to stick to the plan because it’s no longer exciting.
As a psychotherapist, I help people move past the negative thinking habits and fear that keeps them stuck. And when people commit to embracing change, I get to see them take huge leaps toward reaching their greatest potential.
But before you can change your life, you have to acknowledge the ways in which you shy away from change. For many people, shying away from change becomes a way of life. And ultimately, that robs them of mental strength.
Here are ten signs you shy away from change:
1. You experience a lot of anxiety when there are changes to your routine.
2. Whenever you make a change, you struggle to stick with it.
3. You think about the changes you want to make but you tell yourself now isn’t the right time in your life for you to make a change.
4. You tell yourself there’s sense in trying to create change because your changes won’t last.
5. You make excuses for why you can’t change by saying things like, “I’d like to exercise more, but my spouse won’t go to the gym with me.”
6. You justify your bad habits by telling yourself what you’re doing isn’t “that bad.”
7. The thought of stepping outside your comfort zone just seems too scary.
8. When your boss, family, or friends make changes that affect you, you struggle to adapt.
9. Even when you’re in a bad situation, you don’t do anything different because you don’t think change will make things better.
10. You have difficulty recalling the last time you purposely challenged yourself to become better.
If any of those statements sound like you, you’re not alone. All of us doubt our abilities to deal with the stress that accompanies change.
But the good news is, everyone is capable of creating positive change. Whether you have a bad habit you want to give up or you want a fresh start at a new life, you can find the courage to reach your goals. Join me on my Facebook page on Thursday 3/30/27 at noon ET (9 AM PT) to talk about the number three thing mentally strong people don’t do—they don’t shy away from change.
Sign up for my event here–just click “interested” or “going” and Facebook will send you a reminder that I’ll be going live so you can join in.
Here are a few things I’ll be sharing:
* How to identify what stage of change you’re in (there are five stages)
* How to conquer the uncomfortable feelings that keep you stuck (like fear, grief, and anxiety)
* How to deal with the negative thoughts that prevent you from moving forward
* How to create a successful plan for change
I’ll save some time to answer your questions about mental strength and shying away from change as well.
This is the third installment of the Mental Strength Facebook Live Audio Series. If you missed the first two, you can find them archived on my Facebook page.