I’m a psychotherapist turned “accidental” author
I started my career as a psychotherapist thinking I’d use what I’d learned in college to teach people how to be mentally strong. I never imagined how much I was going to need to build my own mental muscles.
When I was 23, my mother passed away. When I was 26, my husband passed away. Losing the two most important people in my life made my interest in mental strength personal.
With a broken heart, I began studying people. I wanted to know why some people felt stuck after they went through hard times and why other people emerged from hardship feeling stronger than ever.
As I studied mental strength, I realized that mentally strong people didn’t just have good habits. They also avoided any unhealthy habits that could hold them back.
In 2013, during one of my lowest points in my life, I wrote a letter to myself about all the things mentally strong people don’t do. When I was done, I had a list of 13 things that could rob me of mental strength if I let them.
I found comfort in reading that letter. So a few days later, I published it online. I hoped someone else might find it helpful too.
I never imagined it would resonate with so many people—but that letter was read by more than 50 million people.
Within a matter of days, a literary agent called and suggested I write a book. And my life has never been the same.
I’ve Written 4 Books
My first book, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, hit the shelves in 2014. It hit the USA Today and Wall Street Journal Bestseller lists. It’s been translated into more than 40 languages. It has hit several international bestseller lists too.
After that book was released, readers kept asking me how to raise mentally strong kids. So, I decided to write a parenting book that would teach parents how to become mental strength coaches. In 2017, 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do went on sale.
Then, I kept getting questions from female readers who wanted to know “what does it look like to be a strong woman?” Too often, we picture Navy SEALs or male athletes as being the epitome of mental toughness. I wanted to show that strength comes in many forms. Although the process of building mental strength is the same for men as it is for women, women face certain pressures and challenges that encourage unhealthy habits. So I wrote 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do in 2018.
And my fourth book is for kids. 13 Things Strong Kids Do went on sale in April of 2021. It’s geared toward the 8 to 12-year-old market and it’s filled with kid-friendly mental strength exercises that will teach tweens how to become their best.
Other Work I Do
I’m the editor-in-chief at Verywell Mind.
I’m also a psychology lecturer at Northeastern University.
I’m also a regular columnist for Forbes, Business Insider, and Psychology Today. My articles on mental strength reach more than 2 million readers every month.
I spend a lot of my time speaking about mental strength. In 2015, I gave one of the most popular TEDx talks of all time—The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong. It’s been viewed more than 15 million times. Some of the places I’ve spoken include Google, Microsoft, the National Nuclear Security Administration, NBC, and Newscorp.
Who Is Talking About Me
As a therapist turned accidental author, it’s always humbling to see media outlets sharing my message.
The Guardian dubbed me “The self-help guru of the moment.” Forbes called me a “thought leadership star.” And Inc. Magazine named me one of the top 100 leadership speakers of 2018.
My advice has been featured by numerous media outlets including Time, Good Morning America, Fast Company, Success, Business Insider, Oprah.com, Fox News, CNN, CNBC, and Today. You can also find me in a Red Bull TV show called Visions of Greatness.
What Else I’m Doing
I’m also the host of the Verywell Mind Podcast. It launched on September 14, 2020. I interview guests from around the globe who exemplify mental strength. We talk about their struggles as well as their strategies for triumph. I also share my favorite strategies for building mental strength every Friday in a quick episode called The Friday Fix.
Most of the time, you can find me in the Florida Keys–where I live on a sailboat (which also serves as my podcast studio).
For my official bio, visit my press page.
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