148 — How to Take Charge of Your Feelings

Feelings are complex and confusing at times. But knowing how to cope with those feelings doesn’t have to be complicated.
 
There are several things you can do to take charge of your feelings and when you know these skills, you’ll gain confidence in your ability to handle discomfort.
 
Some of the things I share are:
 

• Why emotions aren’t either positive or negative
• How naming an emotion reduces the intensity of a feeling
• How to evaluate your feelings with one simple question
• How to change your emotional state
• Strategies for embracing uncomfortable feelings, like sadness, anxiety, and anger
• Strategies for shifting your emotional state so you can feel better fast

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding Emotional Impact: Emotions aren’t positive or negative in themselves; their benefit or harm depends on how we manage and interpret them.
• Labeling Emotions: Naming an emotion helps reduce its intensity and allows us to process it more effectively.
• Evaluating Emotions: Ask yourself whether your current emotion is being a friend or an enemy to determine your next steps.
• Changing Emotional States: Utilize coping mechanisms like changing your thoughts or behaviors to shift your emotional state.
• Embracing Discomfort: Learning to tolerate uncomfortable emotions can enhance your confidence and long-term well-being.