120 — How to Stop Being a People-Pleaser and Start Gaining the Confidence to Be Yourself

You might think you’re doing a good thing when trying to make others happy. But people-pleasing comes with harmful consequences. In fact, studies show people-pleasers struggle with self-discipline, troubled relationships, higher rates of mental health issues, and higher levels of distress.
 
Fortunately, these three strategies can help you stop people-pleasing today. With practice, you can reclaim your mental strength, empower yourself to be self-disciplined, and build healthier, more authentic relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• People pleasing often originates from childhood experiences or low self-esteem.
• Trying to constantly make others happy can lead to frustration, resentment, and superficial relationships.
• Scientific research indicates that people pleasers often lack the energy and self-discipline to pursue their own goals.
• Three strategies to overcome people pleasing: let others feel disappointed, create automated responses, and spend time alone to understand personal preferences.