280 — Are You Secretly Sabotaging Yourself? 4 Steps to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy

You can’t control everything that happens to you this year. But you can control how you respond to your circumstances. And if you’re sabotaging your own efforts, you’ll never reach your greatest potential.
 
Fortunately, recognizing the ways you get in your own way can change everything. Today, I’m sharing a step-by-step guide to help you identify your self-sabotaging habits so you can get out of your own way and achieve your goals in 2026.
 
Some of the things I talk about are:
 

• Why we sometimes create goals only to ensure we don’t reach them
• The surprising reason we would rather have a built-in excuse than risk failure
• The number one fear that causes self-sabotage
• How to identify your specific self-sabotaging behaviors
• How to reframe the thoughts that contribute to self-sabotage
• How to start changing the way you see yourself
• The 4 steps to getting out of your own way

Key Takeaways:

• Self-sabotage is often a response to the fear of failure rather than a lack of desire to succeed.
• Recognizing self-sabotage behaviors is the first step in overcoming them.
• A growth mindset can be instrumental in reducing self-sabotage.
• Experience is key to building mental strength and competence.
• Practicing discomfort tolerance reduces the likelihood that you’ll rely on short-term, self-sabotaging fixes.