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Why would a medical student who needs to ace an exam go out and party instead of study? Why would someone be mean to their new partner for no reason when they really like that person? The answer is self-sabotage.
We all sabotage our goals sometimes. And there’s interesting psychology behind why we do it. Here are the top seven reasons we sabotage our chances of success and three things you can do to stop.
“Nobody’s ever walked into my therapy office and said, ‘I’m here because I sabotage myself.’ And that’s because they’re not conscious that they’re doing it yet.”
“Self-sabotage is actually a great way to fend off some of your deepest insecurities.”
“When your distress level gets really high, I guarantee you’re going to be tempted to self-sabotage.”
“If you believe deep down that you’re unworthy, that you’re incompetent, that you’re unlovable, or that you’re just not good enough, you’re going to keep sabotaging yourself.”
“Being mentally strong isn’t about succeeding every single time you try to do something. It’s about trusting that you’ll be okay even if you fall short.”
0:01 Understanding and Overcoming Self Sabotage
4:36 The Psychology Behind Self-Sabotage and Perfectionism
6:45 The Limits of Willpower and Managing Temptations
8:12 Understanding Self-Sabotage and Imposter Syndrome
9:21 The Pitfalls of Immediate Gratification and Self-Sabotage
10:24 Why We Sabotage Ourselves and How to Stop
12:52 Strategies to Overcome Self-Sabotage and Build Mental Strength
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