67 — Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner and Focus on Yourself

Whether you want your partner to eat healthier or you hope they’ll quit smoking, trying to change your partner won’t be effective. Listen to an audio excerpt from my new book, 13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don’t Do and I’ll explain how to support positive change from your partner.

Key Takeaways:

1. Express your concern once and listen to your partner’s response.
2. Look for wishes and dips in motivation to create positive change.
3. Lecturing someone often has the opposite effect and can increase resistance.
4. Encourage your partner to talk more by repeating their wishes or dips in motivation.
5. Change must come from within; trying to fix someone won’t work.